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Elijah, you’re almost five and a half months old now! On the one hand, it seems like you just came into our lives, but on the other hand, I’m amazed at how much you’ve grown up and changed since we brought you home from the hospital.

Every week you’re picking up new tricks and skills. These days you always want to be sitting up and you smile all the time. When you’re really happy you give big open-mouth smiles and you’ll stick out your tongue and chew on it. If you get near anything, your right hand shoots out and you start scratching it and feeling it’s texture. If it’s mobile, it quickly finds it’s way to your mouth so you can chew on it.

You’re coming off the tail end of being pretty sick for about three weeks and that wasn’t fun for any of us, but it’s so nice to have our happy little boy back again. You’re so good-natured that it’s hard to ever get frustrated for too long, but if you slept a bit better at night, Mom and I wouldn’t complain. We haven’t slept three hours in a row for a month. But it’s ok. I’ll do whatever it takes to help you grow up happy and healthy.

Mom has been busy taking you to lots of activities like a parent/baby group, a mother/child workout program, and Little Gym. The other day Mom said you hung from a bar all by yourself! You’ve mastered rolling over from your back to your stomach and I’m just waiting for you to figure out crawling. I bet it’s not too much longer!

I could go on and on, but the reason I started writing is that I want you to know that on this Thanksgiving Day, I want you to know that I’m thankful for you and our wonderful little family!

Elijah got hammered by some kind of bug about a week and a half ago and a few days later, I got what appeared to be the same thing. Thankfully Tyla has somehow managed to stay healthy throughout this and she’s been an enormous help. Our nights have been long (Tyla’s have been longer than mine!) trying to keep our coughing, sneezing, snotting boy asleep and content. Throw in a time change and it really has made for some interesting nights.

So that’s why you haven’t seen as many pictures of Elijah lately if you’re friends with him on Facebook. While we do post lots of photos of him, we are trying to make some judgment calls about what we post since it will all still be alive on the Interwebz when he’s older. We’ve decided no bath photos, no sick photos, and no status messages about major diagnoses.

Every parent should draw their own line, but it’s an important decision to make. This is the first generation of kids that is going to grow up with every day of their lives documented. It’s hard to predict how that will play out, but we’ll make our best guesses. I just try to picture 15 year old Elijah standing in a group of friends when they find the mother lode of pictures, or an employer who has the ability to datamine old status messages and find out if there are any major mental or physical weaknesses in this employee he is about to hire. It’s impossible to predict perfectly because everyone grows up with their own ideas of humor, but hopefully we’re making good choices.

Enough of all that, let’s see a picture already! Here’s Elijah wearing his first Halloween costume!

Mom is scanning in the slides from our childhood years so I now have access to a lot of my childhood photos. Want to see my first Halloween costume?

It’s October 1, and that means I’m heading back to work. The last time I walked in the door there or even checked my email was August 31. My month of parental leave is over.

When I filled out the application for parental leave, I had to select a reason for the leave. The one that dads pick is called “bonding.” I thought it was odd at the time, but I totally get it now. This past month has been an incredible time to bond as a family. He grew up so much in that one month and I was there every day to watch the changes happen instead of just hearing about it when I got home from work.

Co-workers said that after 4 weeks at home with a baby, I’d be itching to go back to work. Umm… nope. I’m thankful to have such a wonderful job, but if I could afford to stay home, that’s where I would be.

In addition to taking countless naps with Elijah, I did get quite a few house projects knocked off the list and also gave Tyla a break so she could shorten her todo list too. While I didn’t get nearly as much done as I thought I would, I will always look back on September 2013 fondly. Thank you to my company for giving me this opportunity!

I’ve hesitated to write this post because I know it will change, but for the past ~2 weeks, Elijah has been going to sleep amazingly easy. Or maybe we’re just getting better at learning his queues. When 7 or 7:30 rolls around, we go through a ~20 minute routine and the last step is actually putting him to bed. Lately that has only taken 2-3 minutes. We can lay him down even if he’s awake and just walk away. He falls asleep on his own!

There are so many opinions and books out there about how to teach your child to fall asleep on his own and go back to sleep when he wakes up at night. I picked one and read through it to make sure we weren’t starting with any bad habits. The book implied that up until 4 months old, it’s a crapshoot. At that point they start to have the biological capability to make it through a night without feeding but their circadian rhythm doesn’t develop until somewhere between 7 and 10 months. If that’s all true then I’m taking this as a complete bonus and expecting to return to the tough bedtimes and difficult returns to sleep after night feedings. But for now, it’s awesome!

On a typical night he goes to bed at 7:15 and then wakes up around 1 and 4 for feedings. We haven’t slept through a night since June 15, but we’re thankful for how much easier it has gotten in that time frame. Now we’re looking forward to his little tummy getting big enough to hold enough food to get him through the night. We probably have a ways to go yet.

I’m a bit late posting these, but here are a few photos of Elijah from the past month.

After months of research, Tyla settled on the BOB stroller for jogging. I wasn’t thrilled with the price (we traded in Tyla’s first car for less than the cost of the stroller!) but after checking it out, I was impressed with the build quality. Even the 20% off coupon at Babies R Us wasn’t enough to match the screaming deal on Amazon. We ended up with the slightly more expensive Stroller Strides version because it comes with a free week of Stroller Strides classes which she is already planning to do anyway.

Unboxing was very simple. I just had to pump up the tires and attach them to the stroller. One tricky bit was that we have a Graco Click Connect 35 car seat. BOB isn’t making a car seat adapter for these new Graco seats but they say the Chicco adapter will work. I picked up a used adapter from a friend at work and it works great. While Elijah isn’t quite old enough to go jogging with Tyla yet, the car seat adapter will be handy to use for more casual walks.

We’ve heard lots of people who love these strollers and keep them for a long time so hopefully we get our money’s worth! I’m already thinking about how I can modify it a bit to add some LED lights for visibility while she’s jogging.

Happy two month birthday, Elijah! It’s hard for me to leave the house each morning* and know that I won’t see you again until the evening. In these past few weeks you’ve started to smile a lot and you’re beginning to have some control over your crazy arms that swing everywhere. It’s exciting to watch you discover your world! I look at you and think how tiny you are, but then when I look back at your first photos, I’m reminded how much you’ve grown. There are already big stacks of clothes that are too small for you.

Your mom and I haven’t slept through an entire night since June 14. I think we’re starting to adjust to the lack of sleep, or at least we are smarter about going to bed early with you to piece together enough sleep to get through the next day. For now you’re sleeping in a rocking bassinet in our bedroom so we have easy access to feed you as soon as you start waking up. On a good night you’ll go 3 hours between the start of each feeding session and then you fall back to sleep pretty easily. Other nights you need to eat a lot more and/or you have a hard time going back to sleep.

Tyla and I are both looking forward to the month of September when I will be on paternity leave and won’t have to work for the entire month. We’ve started giving you bottles every once in a while which let’s Tyla get out of the house for a bit. We’re so thankful that you are completely content taking room temperature milk from a bottle. I’m guessing that Tyla has a lot of ideas for things she wants to do in September while I’m at home and feeding you with a bottle!

We don’t have much personal experience to compare to, but I think you’re a pretty good baby… for now!

*Ok, that’s not completely true. On those days when you have a huge diaper blowout, I don’t mind missing the cleanup. I think you poop above your weight class.

Our little man is now seven and a half weeks old and he’s not so little anymore! He’s gaining wait at a good rate and seems to be very healthy. He can hold up his head while laying on his stomach and is just starting to give us some of his first intentional smiles. When we’re out and about, we keep him in the Moby wrap most of the time because it both keeps him really calm and quiet (or sleeping), and it helps us avoid passing him around a lot. Pertussis (whooping cough) is still at crazy levels, and I just heard that there are a disturbing number of cases of measles appearing in the area and he won’t get that vaccine for quite a while. So we’ll be the over protective first time parents and keep him in the wrap.

Nights vary widely from feeding every 60-90 minutes to feeding every 3 hours. The latter is obviously a lot easier to deal with! We’ve gotten in the habit of going to bed around 8:30 which usually gives us enough sleep throughout the night. The other night I had to chuckle as I wished the 5 year old kids outside would be quiet so I could go to bed.

Tyla is doing a fantastic job staying at home with him. She has a good schedule set up to get out of the house and meet with other moms. It’s a ton of work for her, but she’s a great mom!

We’re experimenting with pumping and bottles so that Tyla can get a few hours out of the house. So far that’s going pretty well but we haven’t pushed it very far yet.

Parenting is an unbelievable amount of work but it’s so rewarding to look down at this little guy. We love you Elijah!